However romantic relationships are usually the most difficult based on our assumptions of what we "think" a relationship should be.
Having been in and out of difficult relationships in the past I realised very early on that its the law of attraction that gives us what we what. Our desires are based on our beliefs. An example would be that if we were bought up in a family where say our father was always cheating on our mother we may end up believing that all men are cheats. On the flip side of that we may also end up believing that that's how relationships should be done and that's all we deserve because that's what our parents did. The same goes for verbal and physical abuse. Often families repeat the same old patterns again and again based on our belief systems.
If we focus on what we don't want so much that is usually what we end up getting. Rather than focusing on what we would like in a relationship, we tend to focus on what we don't want. Relationships should be easy but when they become difficult its usually because they are "mirroring" whats going on with ourselves. When we start looking in the mirror we are either able to walk away from the relationship or change our behaviour accordingly.
So today was a prime example of how "mirroring" works and how you can manifest anything if you try hard enough with a little imagination and an even better storyline running through your head.
I have been single and happy for a couple of months now however I have been finding it difficult to start up a new relationship. In fact I am not even sure I want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. I still have some issues with past relationships I need to deal with. We have these stories that are played out in our heads that we should be be with a partner when in fact we are whole and complete on our own; but our mind tells us we should be we someone. I had come to the terms of being single for a few months when coincidence, or no such thing as coincidence LOL, bought the opportunity of a "possible" relationship onto my doorstep.
I had been talking to someone online that seemed to be really nice and they were supposed to call me to see whether we actually got on on the phone. Chatting online is a very common way to meet people I am reliably informed but it has its pitfalls since many people are attached or chatting on line for the wrong reasons, because of their egos or because they have nothing better to do.
I had been on a site where they do online tests and you had to sign up for an account to get your results and somehow this person and I just started up a conversation online. We had agreed to speak on the phone, however they did not trust me enough to give me their phone number so I ended up giving them mine instead. During the whole time while I was waiting for the call in the back of my mind based on past experience I was thinking to myself "I am not sure they are going to call me; my ex never used to phone when he promised; relationships are such hard work; I cant even be bothered and so the story continue" and at the end of the evening they did not call. I realised that no only had I manifested it perfectly with my thoughts I that I was not bothered in the least by them not calling me. More importantly I realised that it was not just their issue of not trusting me enough to give our their number, which was kind of weird anyway, but that I also had issues about trust myself. So I used the Sedona Method to release on issues of trust.
With regards to whether I actually wanted to be in a relationship or not I always try as best I can to follow my intuition using my IGS it was telling me that I didn't really trust this man anyway, plus my intuition has been telling me that I didn't want a relationship right now anyway. But my mind was telling me a whole different story.
As it turned out because of the work I do, the whole thing worked out perfectly, exactly as it should have done, and I am back to being in a place of being single and happy.
Relationships should flow. If you are "efforting" or trying to figure things out then there is a good chance you need to fix something in your own life before that person can change. Its far easier to blame someone else for not doing something and make it all their fault rather than look inside and make changes. Depending on the person its also far scarier to look inside.
I once read a quote which said:
"those that do not look within, go without"
However, I can assure you experientially that looking within, however scary it feels, realising your innate knowingness helps you move through life in a whole different way with ease and grace and will benefit you in all aspects of your life. By practicing being in tune with our own emotions and just being "present" and aware; and letting go of any unwanted baggage or "story" that pops up; You will find that everything starts to flow perfectly.
You also learn that you are whole and complete without the story or the baggage and you don't need a relationship to complete you or make you whole because you are already that. But to look at relationships as a gift. It takes courage for us to acknowledge that what we see in our relationship mirror is actually ourselves; that how we are feeling in that moment is being reflected not just by our partner, but in our world. Until we can change our attitude about anger, begin to trust in the loving compassion within our relationship and stop projecting our own insecurities and blame onto another person, we will ignore the mirror of relationship and not uncover the pain or hurt that we hold deep within.
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