No Ordinary Life

Emotional Spring Cleaning



Many people make news years resolutions and we have a list as long as our arm of endless possibilities and goals we want to set ourselves.

Sometimes many of these goals are unachievable and can actually hold us back and bring more challenges. So before you set out on your new years resolutions for 2009 or at any point in your life. Before you can move forwards its worth considering how you ended up in the place where you are at this moment.

By taking the time to reflect on where you are right now it will give you the opportunity to face another year and leave behind all those things you do not wish to take with you. Sometimes you may have feelings or resentment that is holding you back and its good to have an emotional spring clean.

Emotional spring cleaning is all about cutting those energetic chords with those people and situations that have bound us in unhealthy ways so that we can find freedom. The act of emotional spring cleaning is all about coming to terms with any difficult experiences.

While a new year is a wonderful opportunity to start fresh, consider new possibilities and set goals, before turning your thoughts to a list of resolutions, you also need to look closely at the year that's just come to a close. Before you can move forward, you must consider what brought you here to this moment. By looking at where you are now, you can decide what you want to carry with you as you face another year and more importantly, you can decide what you want to leave behind.

Finding closure and coming to terms with difficult experiences, perhaps losing a loved on, losing a job or coming out of a difficult relationship can be challenging at the best of times. But its often after the event the energy of the situations keeps us stuck.

An exercise I find very rewarding is to write a letter. Either write it in person to the person who you feel has hurt you or if more appropriate write in and keep it in your diary or if it makes you feel better burn it especially if there is a lot of anger and pent up feelings you could not express towards that person.

Imagine you life as a story or a book or novel. That this letter you are writing is a chapter in your life that is over and finished. If you have been for example in a particularly unhappy relationship where you partner has cheated on you you might want to write something like the following: An example could be an ending paragraph such as : I will never ever look ever back again. I will never look over my shoulder. I walk forward now and walk my talk one step at a time. I will live my life with dignity and grace.”

Always end the letter on a positive note. “I know is that my past is past and over, and it includes you but it has provided me with a blueprint for my dreams and aspirations and I take all the lessons learned with me, Thank you”

Carrying bitterness and resentment with you in a very bad situation is not going to help you move forward at all. It will keep you energetically stuck.

Every time you have a mental conversation in your head with the person involved or you feel that an old limiting pattern is reappearing in your life say:
"This is the past for me, (or the past is over). My present reality is a wonderful, this chapter is over. I am writing myself a new book, film” or whatever. Be creative. Do what feels best and makes you feel inspired. The more positive emotion behind the mental conversation you have in your head the more likely it is to change your thought processes.

If you decide to see the person face to face, make sure you are in a secure place where you can have emotional closure. Do not meet them if you are angry or feel resentment use the writing method instead.

Remember that time heals all wounds and forgiveness is the key to healing.
If you have had major life challenges over the last year. If you are coming out of a very difficult relationship, perhaps you have been made redundant and there isn't much hope of a job in the immediate future, perhaps you have lost a family member through illness and bereavement. For the coming year. Take baby steps.

Final closure and emotional spring cleaning for 2008 can really help by reminding yourself that you are only human. Acknowledge yourself by giving yourself an affirmation. Not an over the top, out of reach affirmation that is totally unachievable but a realistic goal that you know you can achieve. Some examples could be:

I have not been good at relationships in the past, but I am learning how to do them better.

I am grieving over the loss of my mum/dad but I know that in time I will heal

I might not have a job right now but I will have a job soon. Things always turn around for me for the better.


In time you will find yourself moving towards more adventurous goals.

And while your at it start cleaning up the space around you. We all carry energy. Our bodies are not just made of purely physical matter they also vibrate with invisible energy and carry energic debris around that collects or hangs onto us.

Sage is a wonderful, although I tend to use a mixture of iranian herbs that was passed down from my ex mother in law. There many ways you can do energetic clearing and you can find lots of articles about space clearing or smudging on google. It helps to clear away and emotional and psychic energies that tend to hang around onto us and is a great way of spiritual spring cleaning too.

Find what feels comfortable for you.

and HAPPY 2009 to all my blog readers.

May you leave all your energetic and emotional past behind you and have a prosperous and spiritually fulfilling, healthy, happy new year.